IDO Journal
Journal
Find love without the detours
Practical ideas on choosing a partner, dating and making it work, for people who are serious about finding the right person
First impressions: stop performing and let the real you show
A successful, independent woman chose her outfit carefully before an important date, prepared a few topics and reminded herself to smile. Her date was polite and attentive, yet afterwards he said something she didn’t expect: “You seem great in every way, but somehow it didn’t feel like I was meeting the real you…”
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Successful, busy, small circle: why high achievers struggle to meet someone
Your career is steady, your life is disciplined, and your friends say you’re “a great catch”. But love feels like a knot you can’t untie. Last month an old friend organised a dinner and deliberately seated you next to someone who was “perfect on paper”. You’d rushed over straight from two meetings…
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Values, attachment, intimacy: what really makes two people compatible
A friend who had just come out of a relationship of more than two years sat across from me and said something I hear all the time: “We always thought we were right for each other, until we realised we weren’t at all.”…
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From meeting more people to meeting the right one: where the method has to change
You probably know someone like this, or you may be one of them. Accomplished, disciplined, happy to say hello first on the apps and polite enough to go on every set-up a friend suggests. A year on, they’ve talked to plenty of people and been on a fair few dates, yet almost nothing…
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